New Married Young Couple Needs To Be Given To The Required Sexual Education!

The season is spring and the weather is hot and these dates are wedding month. Many of young adults prepare to go down the aisle. When couples’ wedding dates are coming up, their eyes shine with joy and excitements as well as they are concerned. The marriage market which stimulates more than 20 sectors of furniture and white goods, jeweler and wedding cards, wedding hall and hairdresser, medical and sex therapist est., seems to have reached a huge economic size (nearly 13.2 billion TL). This mobility in wedding season also increases fears of first night. Turkish Sexual Health Institute (CİSED) General President Psychotherapist Cem Keçe attracts attention that new married couples need to be given to the “required” sexual education.

LIFE OF COUPLE BECOMES IMPRACTICABLE BECAUSE OF PROBLEMS OF FIRST NIGHT…

Psychotherapist Keçe says; “Summer months are known as the wedding season and the number of couples, who married, increases. The first night of marriage in other words, bridal chamber is still one of the big problems in our country. Generally, women think that they can feel suffering, pain and fear of much bleeding during sex activities; men think that they can fail to satisfy their partner and they have fears of failing during sexual relationship because the first night is very overrated in our society. Women and men are brought up with untrue information about sex during childhood. Moreover, fear of the first night is not only in women, men have the same fears. The biggest nightmare of men can be fear of failure during first intercourse. Therefore, they can have some sexual problems such as erectile dysfunction, loss of firmness or premature ejaculation. If couples accept their own sexual problems and they do not apply to a sexual therapy as soon as possible, these problems can last for years and can make their life unbearable.”

THE STATE OF NO ENTERS INTO RELATIONS SHOWS ITSELF IN FIRT NIGHT…

Psychotherapist Keçe says; “The state of no enter into relations can occur in three ways. Vaginismus which is a condition where there is involuntary tightness of the vagina during attempted intercourse, erectile dysfunction, loss of firmness or premature ejaculation, sexual aversion which are the state of no enter into relations for men and honeymoon syndrome which is result from lacks of couple’s sexual experience and knowledge… On the basis of these three problems are often feelings about sexuality, misinformation and lies expectations. These problems are nightmare for couple because our country is going backwards because of pollution information about sexual matters although technology develops quickly. Now days, there is not institutions that young people can talk about sexuality. There were best men formerly in our country and they advised young and inexperienced couple about first night and conjugal duty. At the present day, young people can not speak with their families about sexuality and can not learn sexuality in school so they can try learning sexuality in the internet, porn movies and they try to obtain information about sex from friends. Therefore, couples have many serious problems about first night and sexuality.”

COUPLE NEEDS TO BE GIVEN TO “THE REQUIRED” SEXUAL EDUCATION BEFORE MARRIAGE…

Psychotherapist Keçe continues; “Sexual knowledge is very important in order to be able to solve and prevent sexual problems… Therefore, couple needs to be given to the required and free sexual education before marriage and couple are advised about sexuality, being parents and partner because many couples are getting married without knowing anything about sexuality. Men have unrealistic expectations about sexuality because of watching porn movies and women are shy so they can not speak with their partner about sexuality. Therefore, young couples have sexual problems. CİSED has suggested that young couple should be given sexual information before marriage and it should be necessary.”

PARENTHOOD CAN NOT BE THE CHEAPEST JOB…

Psychotherapist Keçe says; “A diploma and education is necessary for each job in the world. For example; if person want to be a doctor, he/she has to go to a school and pass exams. However, penis and vagina are enough for being parenthood or parents and couple generally has sexual problems. Therefore, couple needs to be given to the required sexual education before marriage because sexuality is the science and art of being able to orgasm that person focuses on the pleasure of touch and sex intercourse, gives and takes pleasure, shares the spirit and the body.”