CİSED Attracts Attention Parallel Structure In Marriage

In the recent years, cases of infidelity have increased which the public and the media always attract attention. Turkish Sexual Health Institute (CİSED- www.cised.org.tr) marriage and relationship therapists focused on the reasons of infidelity. The questionnaire has done in both of face to face and virtually with the total of 500 adults, who get married, are 300 males and 200 females and consequently, it is appeared that some people can have the possibility of cheating and setting up parallel structures in marriage who encountered infidelity problems in the past. CİSED General President Marriage and Relationship Therapist Specialist Dr. Cem Keçe says; “Children of deceptive parents can betray in other words, an illegitimate forbidden love can be seen to children of deceptive parents!”

ILLEGITIMATE FORBIDDEN LOVE…

Dr. Keçe attracts attention that illegitimate forbidden love threatens the Turkish family structure and Dr. Keçe continues; “Illegitimate forbidden love, which located in the institution of marriage and one of couple cannot aware, is called parallel structures in marriage which means deception, forbidden love or infidelity. Parallel means an event that is in the same plane and does not intercept, developing in the same time and has the same properties; a structure is used in the sense of institution of marriage. It is like a situation that is marriage in marriage… The definition of parallel structure in marriage, which is a forbidden fruit that includes pleasure, violence and betrayal, can range from culture to culture or from couple to couple because the parallel structure in marriage is done on the emotional level, at the level of sexual intercourse or virtually. It comes true that person channels her/his interest other person is without relationship. The size of the new relationship can range from ‘face to face’ to others (facebook, letter, phone ect.). There are several reasons for setting up parallel structures in marriage. In addition to the obvious reasons, a painful truth is appeared with a questionnaire by CİSED…”

CHILDREN OF DECEPTIVE PARENTS CAN BETRAY…

Dr. Keçe says; “If people encountered, saw and heard infidelity problems in the past, they can betray during adulthood. According to CİSED’s survey on 500 people who have set up parallel structures in marriage, 30% of deceptive women and 50% of deceptive men’ parents have deceived each other, 20% of deceptive women and 40% of deceptive men have heard or seen adults in extended family, 40% of deceptive women and 60% of deceptive men have grown up with infidelity stories in their own environment… Consequently, what goes around comes around…”

THERAPY CAN BE SOLUTION…

Dr. Keçe says; “Just like life is an earth, if you do not sow, it can be empty but if you sow, it can be full. Therefore, if you saw an adult, you can harvest an adult. Consequently, person has to helplessness harvest it what person sawed in history. But this situation is not destiny… If person analyses her/his past with emotions of awareness and insight, he/she can disrupt this order which is ‘what goes around comes around’. Therefore, person should join personal development training, read some books about it and go to a therapist.”