EVERYONE IS RESPONSIBLE FOR OWN SEXUAL SATISFACTION

CİSED HONORARY PRESİDENT DR. CEM KEÇE: " ANYBODY DOES NOT HAVE TO SATISFY ANYBODY IN BED!"

Eating, drinking water and taking a breath are necessity of live, sex is a necessity of relationship. Sex is not duty or obligation so couple should not force a sex they make out willing or sex sometimes defaults. A password of sexual passion in long-term relationship is an ability of being yourselves when person is emotionally integration with partner. Thus, person should not be obliged to do something and he/she should not need to worry about performance. "Does couple have to satisfy each other?", "Sexual life can monotonous day by day, is it by chance?", "Is there any way to increase sexual passion of couple again?" or "What is the difference from the model of being passive and the model of taking responsibility?" As you see, Cinsel Sağlık Enstitü Derneği (CİSED) sex therapist tell some of the recommendations which couples have the best love and sex live in order that couples who are inability, lost their passion and have fears not to be able to satisfy…

ANYBODY DOES NOT HAVE TO SATISFY ANYBODY IN BED!

CISED Honorary President Dr. Cem Keçe says that "Fear of failure" is called performance anxiety is more important in sexuality and Dr. KEÇE continue, "One of the most important reasons which are lost sexual desire in couple's relationship is performance anxiety which causes the thoughts and emotions of inability to satisfy and inadequate exposure. If couples think that he/she cannot satisfy each other enough and their relationships are boring, they can began growing apart and sex, they can also have sexual dysfunctions such as premature ejaculation, impotence, lack of sexual desire, no orgasm and arousal disorders. The only way is that person cannot perceive sex is a duty in order not to have all of them because regardless of sexuality is the science and art of being able to orgasm that person focuses on the pleasure of touch and sex intercourse, gives and takes pleasure, shares the spirit and the body. Therefore, anybody does not have to satisfy anybody in bed. Everyone is responsible for own sexual satisfaction. That is called the model of assuming responsibility. The opposite of this model is remaining passive. Every people have conditions chains which are about sexual desire, arousal and satisfaction. Moreover, every people have rights of claim but many people believe that all of sexual things are done by partner's duties. Otherwise, if couple does not have a satisfactory sexual, they can think that partner and her/hisself can lack. As sexual therapists, we emphasize that the sexual power is her/hisself. Thereby, person easily implies his/her own wishes and desires and so person can comprehend partner and her/hisself. All in all, couple can take pleasure in sex very much. In other words, arousing a sexual desire is person own duty not partner's duty but person can support to partner. For example; person can offer his/her soul and body to partner as a gift and person can make partner's requests. Of course, underwear, candles and nice words are beautiful but they should not be the first step.Primacy is her/hisself. This point of view cause that understanding of the control is in her/his own hands because a fear of losing control is very frightening in an unconscious level. The model of remaining passive causes that person charges partner or relationship. The model of assuming responsibility cause that person takes a pleasure in relationship, overcome the existing problem and it prevents to cheat on each other".

WOMAN SHOULD CLAMP HERSELF ON TİME…

CİSED President of the General Psychiatry Specialist Asst. Dr. Cebrail Kısa says; "Implementation of the model of taking responsibility is necessity for healthy and happy sex life. When man has sex with woman, he offers his soul and body to partner as a gift. Woman accepts this gift. Then, it is woman's duty. Woman takes the risk of rejection and fail and then woman wants partner to play with herself. Woman has a right of claim and man has a right to reject. Woman is responsible herself to use partner's body, clamp her body and have fantasy for orgasm. Thus, woman are responsible herself for the sexual satisfaction. Female does not have to reach orgasm or satisfy to his partner. Woman does not have only penis to orgasm. This can be achieved in different ways.

The model of taking responsibility puts woman in charge but it frees man. Thus, couple is satisfied".

 

MAN SHOULD DO LOVE POLİCY HALF-HEARTEDLY…

CİSED Secretary-General Psychologist Serap Güngör says; "The model of remaining passive causes sexual dysfunctions. Woman offers her soul and body to partner as a gift. Male accepts this gift. Then, it is man's duty. Man takes the risk of rejection and fail and then man wants partner to play with hisself. Man has a right of claim and woman has a right to reject. Male is responsible hisself to use partner's body, clamp his body and have fantasy for orgasm. Thus, he is responsible hisself for the sexual satisfaction. Male does not have to reach orgasm or satisfy to her partner. Man does not have only vagina to orgasm. This can be achieved in different ways. The model of taking responsibility puts man in charge but it frees woman. Thus, couple is satisfied".