SEX LIFE IS RE-ENKINDLED, WHICH COVER WITH ASHED, IS POSSIBLE

CİSED: "SEX LİFE İS RE-ENKİNDLED, WHİCH COVER WİTH ASHED, IS POSSIBLE!"

 

CİSED HONORARY PRESİDENT DR. CEM KEÇE: "SEX IS A NECESSITY OF MARRIAGE AND THE REALITY OF LIFE!"

The first time of relationship is always more passionate, funny and exciting. When two people decide to be couple, they think that their love and sexual excitement can last forever but after a while their pink glasses are taken off, couple meet each other, they are relaxed in relationship and they have a vegetable life. And one day, responsibilities of a shared life, which is monotonous and routine, can become unbearable. Therefore one or both of partners may begin thinking that relationship is boring and passion between them finished because, sexuality and desires can finish in an overtime relationship. " Sexual life can monotonous day by day, is it by chance?", "Is there any way to increase sexual passion of couple again?" As you see, Cinsel Sağlık Enstitü Derneği (CİSED) sex therapists tell some of the recommendations in order that the passions of love and sex life are reanimated by couples who lost their passion in relationship…

KEY WHİCH FURBISH UP AN OLD PASSION!

CISED Honorary President Dr. Cem Keçe says; "Eating, drinking and breathing are necessities of live; sex is a necessity of marriage. They are not requirement or task so they should not be forced. In contrast, they must be on request and inherently. Sex is a requirement of marriage and is a reality of life. If a marriage has patience, loyalty, unconditional love, intimacy, passion and respect, there can be happy synergy and healthy sex life. Key, which last a passion in marriage, is an ability to be yourself when you are integrated with partner. There are four main components for this: directly communication, touching with partner, assuming responsibility instead of blaming and coming down on fears".

DIRECTLY COMMUNICATION MUST BE…

CİSED President of the General Psychiatry Specialist Asst. Dr. Cebrail Kısa says; "It means to express yourselves freely. In other words, it means that person can tell directly what he/she want, he/she can give honestly answer to questions and be honest about sexual life. To flirt, talk, clarify roles, remove in between, bless the bedroom and follow pleasure came up with directly communication. Thereby, person can clarify the boundaries of identity and behave how he/she wants because opposite of them is called an emotional cohesion. The boundaries of identity are uncertain because of an emotional cohesion. It means that person and his/her feelings are invaded by feelings, thoughts, needs and concerns of partner or person has to act what partner wants, focus on only partner, force to express himself/herself, look for an accordance under force. Therefore, they want to combine a single reality with their inner experiences. As a result, each level of happy depends on others. This dependency reduces the sexual passion so truth must be important instead of the emotional cohesion. Truth is separation, that is to say, separation is opposite synonymous cohesion and it means the ability to continue expressing the identity freely when person is integrated with partner . If level of decomposition increases, sense of individualism will be elastic. Thus, person can easily cope with problems in marriage and chose his/her own behaviors. Separation makes person to be different from others and brings forth person's original identity so it is their thoughts, feelings, values, sensitivities, power, desires, fantasies and eroticism. If person succeed to decomposition, person can be generous to a fault".

TOUCHING WITH PARTNER MUST BE…

CİSED Secretary-General Psychologist Serap Güngör says; "To be close causes to lose yourselves but to get away from partner causes to lose partner. If person has a problem about being yourselves, breaking away with partner is very difficult for him/her. Undifferentiated people do not want to sex or they persist in a demand to cope with sexual problems. Therefore, they have a defense mechanism such as "obey", "put pressure on sb." and " keep one's place" ın other word, ıf person copes with intense feelings such as misunderstanding, frustration, stick in someone's throat, conflict, rejection or loss, person can meet the eye. Person should labor under a constant anxiety her/himself and partner mildly in order to continue to love. The only way is that person should touch with partner easily and person should allow partner to touch you. Taking a bath together, sleeping together, kissing each other, touching, hug, erotic touch ect. bring couple comfort and joy and all of them give them sense of security".

COUPLE MUST ASSUME RESPONSIBILITY AND MAKE A GOOD CHOICE INSTEAD OF BLAMING…

CİSED Board of Directors Psychologists Kemal Özcan says; "The result of fusion is being reactive. In other word, exhibition does not depend on any cognitive processing. The opposite of this is assuming responsibility. That is to say, person can easily tell about own feelings, observe him/herself, make choices that include risk and concern. These are symbols of resolution. Therefore, person should become a courageous man/woman, choose after thinking. These situations cause to assume control. If person decide to chance a high risk, he/she can be more successful and powerful".

COMING DOWN ON FEARS MUST BE…

CİSED Board of Directors Psychologists Gülüm Bacanak says; "Fear is an abnormal anxiety . It also means distress, discomfort. If person is so anxiety, he/she has a feeling which is going to be a bad thing, an unpleasant anxiety and person does not know why he/she feels. Fear is an instinct for protect. Anxiety is feeling which person is afraid of unknown things . It is also the ability to adapt to life . Person thinks if person tell about what he/she wants, he/she can worry about to be rejected or abandoned. Over time, person charges partner with something in order to get rid of worries. However, getting rid of worries cause worries too so person should coming down on fears or worries in order to increase to passion in relationship so that he/she can occurs sexual feeling and eroticism because coming down on fears effect positively sexual excitement and passion".